The Spiteful Ex-wife.

 

Spite n. grudge: lasting ill-will:hatred.- v.i. to vex: to thwart: to hate. - adj. spite'ful full of spite: desirous to vex or injure: malignant. -adv. spite'fully. -n. spite'fulness. -in spite of in opposition to all efforts of, in defiance of, in contempt of: notwithstanding; spite (of) despite.

 

The British Second Wives Club has discovered a considerable number of ex-wives are consumed with spite.

 

Here are some examples of the Spiteful Ex-wife. 

 

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  Ex-wife lies about the facts and twists actual events around to support her being the victim
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  Ex-wife empties joint bank account and abuses credit cards
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  Ex-wife runs up mobile phone bill
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  Ex-wife makes anonymous and annoying phone calls to her ex-husband’s new wife/partner
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  Ex-wife lies in court
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  Ex-wife lies about being a victim of Domestic Violence
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  Ex-wife recruits family and friends to take sides with her
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  Ex-wife destroys ex-husband's belongings
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  Ex-wife stalks ex-husband and his new partner/wife
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  Ex-wife demands she is within her 'rights' to vet the suitability of her ex-husband's new partner
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  Ex-wife blocks all access to children's school and related events such a parent's evening, sports day
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  Ex-wife refuses to acknowledge the children's Father has any rights to parent them
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  Ex-wife dictates and controls what happens when ex-husband sees the children
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  Ex-wife dictates who is 'allowed' to see the children when they are with their Father
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  Ex-wife breaks court ordered contact with no regard for the children's relationship with their Father
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  Ex-wife makes unreasonable demands with impossible deadlines
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  Ex-wife bad mouths and slanders ex-husband to anyone who will listen
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  Ex-wife sends abusive, accusatory letters to ex-husband and his new wife’s/partner’s boss
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  Ex-wife intercepts all gifts and cards from ex-husband sent to the children
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  Ex-wife sends the children to see their Father dressed in unsuitable clothing - lighter summer clothing and flip-flops on a winter's day
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  Ex-wife insisting the children have to be with her on birthdays and Christmas
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  Ex-wife tells everyone including the children her ex-husband's new wife/partner is responsible for breaking up their marriage
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  Ex-wife makes false complaints of bad practise to employer of ex-husband and his wife/partner
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  Ex-wife flying into a rage if she sees ex-husband's new wife/partner name signed on children's card and demanding she doesn't sign anything again to 'her' children
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  Ex-wife sends nasty letters, emails and text message to ex-husband's new wife/partner
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  Ex-wife shouts abuse at ex-husband's new wife/partner
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  Ex-wife physically abuses ex-husband's new wife/partner
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  Ex-wife damages car and/or property belonging to he ex-husband’s new wife/partner
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  Ex-wife demands her ex-husband's new wife/partner has nothing to do with 'her' children
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  Ex-wife insists her ex-husband's new wife/partner isn't present in the home when 'her' children visit
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  Ex-wife threatens the children of her ex-husband's new wife/partner
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  Ex-wife spreads lies throughout her ex-husband’s family about her ex-husband and his new partner/wife. One of the most popular lies being ‘they had an affair and that woman broke up our happy marriage’. Fact – her ex-husband didn’t have an affair, they spilt up and he moved on with his life.
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  Ex-wife tries to get her ex-husband’s family to side with her claiming she has done nothing wrong in an attempt to make his family favour her and take pity on her.
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  Ex-wife never questioned ex-husband's ability to be a good father and to care for their children by himself, until they were divorced. Then, according to her, he becomes totally unreliable and can't be trusted with the children unless she gives him a complete list of dos and don'ts.

Child related spite – also known as Parental Alienation

• Block and/or control all telephone contact between the child/ren and their Father
• Destroy all old photos of her ex-husband or cut him out of the photos, let the children see what she’s done
• Don't allow your children to have a photo of their father in their bedroom
• Tell the children what you think of their Father and encourage them to share the same negative views
• Imply they won't have a good time with their Father
• Imply they could be hurt or at risk when they are with their Father
• Offer the children gifts as rewards if they say they don't want to see their Father
• Mislead the children's school about the suitability of their Father and imply he is a troublemaker
• Tell children their Father doesn't love them anymore as he has a new life and new partner/wife
• Tell the children their father left them as well as her
• Make the children aware of adult discussions about Divorce, Courts and Money
• The Ex-wife transfers her obsessions about their Father, money and his life onto the children
• Openly slander their Father so the children can hear
• Make the children call their Father by his first name or force the children to call their father 'it'
• Insist the children call her new boyfriend ‘Dad’
• Bully the children into keeping quiet about their home and school life
• Make the children aware of how much Child Maintenance their Father pays
• Exclude the father from making any decisions about the children's life and Education
• Tell the children they have to miss out on activities because their Father isn't paying for them
• Creating false memories for the children, a very common theme is ‘their father was bad to them’
• The mother burdens the children so much she makes the children feel responsible for her
• The ex-wife makes the eldest son feel he is responsible for her and that he is ‘man of the household’
• Grill the children about their time spent in their Father's company - who did they see, what did they eat, what did they do etc.
• Donating children's toys given to them by their Father to the charity shop or destroy them
• Lie to the children about events when their Father doesn't turn up - say he has a new busy life that doesn't include them
• All cards and letters from their Father are hidden from the children
• Reward the children if they make detrimental comments about their Father
• Tell the children ‘we are poor because your father doesn't pay enough’ and ‘he stole all our money’
• Constantly intrude with phone calls to the children when they are with their Father
• Make the children needless worry about their 'poor' mother while they are spending time with their Father
• Allowing young children to pick and choose when they want to see their Father
• Tell the children 'if it wasn't for Dad’s new wife/partner you'd have lots of holidays, toys and new clothes...'
• Tell the children their father bullies her in court
• Make the children believe their Father is harassing them if he tries to contact them
• Tell the children she is lonely and misses them when they see their Father
• Lie and tell the children they have no living relatives and that she is their only living relative
• Makes the children say horrible thing to their Father's new wife/partner

These are all actual examples of spiteful behaviour provided by The BSWC Second Wives.   Have you experienced this type of spiteful behaviour? If you have, join us today!

 

 

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