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Well, I have read most of
your stories and have already realised although I thought my life was a
nightmare it's not actually that bad. I met my partner on holiday when I
was 15 and he was 18 and as always when the holiday came to an end so did
our friendship. However two years later we ended up getting back in
touch. In between I had a son and split with my baby's father.
By this time I was now 17
and he was 21 he told me he was single and he was not ready for a heavy
relationship yet and that was fine with me as I did not know what I wanted
to do at that time. However as the months went on I was happy and so
was he so we decided to get more involved in a full relationship.
There was one thing he was keeping from me and that was he was still
seeing he ex. I suspected this however he denied it saying that I was
being paranoid. I believed him to an extent and carried on with the
relationship. Then six months after we started seeing each other he
proposed and I accepted agreeing that it would be a very long engagement.
Then a week later I called
his ex as I had found a unusual text on my partner's mobile. I asked
her why she was texting him and she stated he was her boyfriend and she
was four months pregnant. I was devastated and spiralled into
depression however I agreed to try and make the relationship work and gave
him a second chance but sometime I feel that this could have been the
worst mistake that I could have made. That's when the late night
calls started and the mystery illnesses she said was being caused by her
pregnancy and the texts begging him to get back with her and telling him
they need to meet up to discuss the baby even though it wasn't due yet
four at least four months.
The whole pregnancy was a
nightmare with her stating she was never going to allow him to see the
child or the next minute begging him to go round. However when she had the
baby it all got worse! At first from when the baby was six weeks old
she allowed my partner to have him every other weekend thinking that I
hadn't moved in with him yet when I had.
When she found out she
stopped him from coming and demanded my partner see his son at her flat
which he agreed to and to be honest (as you could probably guess) I was
very unhappy about it as he had cheated on me with her at the start of our
relationship. I put up with it thinking it wouldn't be long before
she let us have him over night again. How wrong was I!
This went on for two and
half years with her texting me in between telling me how they were
sleeping together when he came over to see his son. Even though my partner
denied it (and still does) I believed her (and still do) and I left
however ended up back a week later as my son was missing him (and to be
honest so was I). We gave it yet another try and things got better
she got a boyfriend and we ended up with my partner's son every other
weekend and within two months she was pregnant again.
Things were great then.
I have a great relationship with my stepson and my son and his son get on
great (well as well as a three year old and five year can get on).
However I still have great resentment for my partner getting her pregnant
when he refuses to give my another child and sometimes I really do feel
like walking out.
Although we don't have the
problems so much with the ex anymore it's now the future mother in law
that is telling me my son and I need to leave my partner and his son to
have some quality time together and we should go out and not go back
to the house until he is in bed. Thinking it was my partner that had told
her he wanted this I asked him straight if this is what he wanted and he
told me no he wants us altogether. He will not stick up to his mom
who tells him the basically his a useless father and that I should not be
around when he has his son. Why does she not accept that we are a family
and that my son and his son are that close that they call each other
brothers and my stepson has occasionally started to call me mom.?
Sometimes its just to much
and I want to leave thank god I found out about BSWC from a friend.
Good luck to you all x x x x
