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Elizabeth's
Story
I met my partner 13 years ago. I
had a nine year old son and he had two daughters aged 5 and 6. His ex had ran
off with his best friend and it eventually came out she had been having an
affair with him for the whole 8 years of their marriage and before. When I met
him she had left him and the children, she had gone to live with a friend whilst
waiting for a house.
The girls came everywhere with us.
When things settled the girls went back to live with her three nights a week.
During that time they experienced her partner being violent .....read
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Maggie's Story
Right from the
beginning I knew my husbands ex was going to be a problem, in fact he
warned me quite early on.
We married in Sept and had our 18
month old son christened, my step daughters were our bridesmaids and we as
a family get on fine.
Over the last five years we have
had phone calls from the ex telling him he cannot see the kids unless he
gives her more money,
messages calling him all sorts of names, text messages telling him his
children do not like him. ...... read
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Lucy's Story
I met my partner in March 2004.
I knew he had
two children but they lived with their mother and he had them every other
weekend, things were great and the children were OK around me and I with them.
In August
2005 we had a phone call to ask us to collect the children from social
services which we did and they have lived with us since, what a shock! I am 22 years old and am a
qualified nanny so at first it wasn't too bad as I treated it almost like
a job.....read
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Jane's Story
The basic facts:
Me 47 with 2 kids, a daughter 14 and a son 12. My husband 45,
2 daughters one just turned 21 and one 17. My kids live with us and
his live with their mother 400 odd miles away.
I was married before and left an
emotionally abusive husband when I was 40. I met my second
husband 7 years ago and we have been married for nearly 4 years.
My husband is a
lovely man, often too lovely, leaving him open to emotional and financial
abuse from mostly certain members of his family....read
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Helen's Story
I am 45 and met my partner a
little over two years ago and within a year had sold my house so that we could
set up home together.
That was 16 months ago. He
has two boys, now aged 7 and 10, who spend half their time with us - Mondays and
Tuesdays at our house, Wednesdays and Thursdays at their mum's, alternate
weekends and half of each holiday at each.
It does sound a bit
complicated but it generally works comfortably....read
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Jessica's Story
In May 2003 I met my husband
who had his son living with him for one week. He had been split up
from his ex girlfriend for several months. I have two daughters of my own
and took on my stepson who had just turned 4 at the time. I have
always treated him as my own and so have my daughters.
His mother who is a heroin
addict and has been for 18 years had three other children by a different
father and she gave all those away as well as they were out of control.
She saw my stepson in the September of 2003....read
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Louise's Story
I met my partner in 1999. I was
living with my 2yr old son, having left my 2nd husband 18mnths before and he was
living with his 2 son's, then aged 2 & 5. His wife had left him 5 months
previously, for one of his 'mates' that she had reportedly been having an affair
with for about a year.
Within 3 months we were
inseparable & my son & I moved in with them. My partner was in a terrible
emotional state, he had thought he would be married forever, and was sure that I
too would eventually run off and leave him just like his ex had.....read
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Anne's Story
When I was 19 I had a child
with my first boyfriend as a result of my first sexual experience. Our
parents who were from different sides of the track and who were RC on both
sides decided that we couldn't marry and they intervened in such a way
that we couldn't.
I was in nurses training and
at risk of being expelled if I kept my child so I gave him up for
adoption. At age 21 he found me again. I was then in a second marriage to
a very unemotional and controlling man.....read
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Jill's Story
I met my partner when
I was working overseas and the first year was spent him coming to stay
with me and me going to stay with him for the odd day here and weekend
there. We kept Ryanair in business and spent loads on telephone bills too
and finally I decided I should come home to live.
When I met my partner I had been
separated from my husband for just over 18 months and was living on my own
with an au pair to help with my son.
I moved back to England in
February 2003 and for the first few weeks we lived with my mum and then we
found a house to rent close by and moved in there...... read
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Paula's Story
My partner left his previous
partner nearly three years ago. She will have the world believe that it was my
fault but if she was honest, and in moments of weakness she has been, would
admit that the relationship was over but that she refused to leave or ask him to
leave because of their son (who was only three at the time).
We immediately
moved in together (some may say, a little hasty but he had left the 'family
home' and I was living with a group of friends) and for six months, I was not
allowed to meet their son, instead my partner had to visit, by himself, every
Sunday for the whole day and one evening in the week......read
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Sara's Story
My fiancé and I have been together
a couple of years, we are getting married later this year and his divorce should
be finalised in a few months. He has 2 kids from previous marriage. The ex-wife
(whom i shall refer to as the Devil Woman) loathes and despises me with a
passion and she has been a screaming banshee as long as we have been together.
In the
beginning I put up with a lot of nasty phone calls and abusive texts from her -
most of which I ignored with a dignified silence. However on a few occasions I
did retaliate with short, sharp warnings that she ought not to push me too far,
which did make her back-off for a little while.....read
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Caroline's Story
I can't believe I've
found this club....finally a place where I can explain how I feel about
the woman I shall refer to as a Bitch from hell.
I met my fiancé in May 2005 and we
became inseparable. So much so that when I got a job in The Midlands, he
moved 100 miles away from his 3 kids to be with me....much to the disgust
of the Bitch from Hell.
We see the kids every other
weekend without fail and we are always very flexible on times, days etc.
And me and the kids get on really, really well. Also to the disgust of the
Bitch!
However, since we have been
together the amount of problems we have had is unbelievable..... read
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Alison's Story
I never really considered what life would be like and how different it would
be being in a relationship with a man who had been married before. I didn't know
anyone who was in a relationship with a man who had been married before and had
children.
Most of my friends had partners but no one seemed to have a partner with an
ex-wife who was active and current 'baggage'. Most people have 'ex' partners who
manage to get on with their lives when the relationship dissolves but my
partners ex-wife seems incapable of moving on with her life especially when she
dedicates so much of it to her hate campaigns.....read
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Ellie's Story
Well, I don't know if my story is anywhere
near as bad as those I've read, but it hurts none the less, and would be good to
get it out.
I met a guy who's 10yrs
older than me, and I love him dearly. He has 3 kids who live with his ex.
They're just going through a divorce at the moment, and I don't know whether or
not it's going to help things.
She isn't outright
horrible to me - and my partner thinks I'm being paranoid, which I might be, I
don't know. She arranges things like family do's and doesn't invite me, or buys
him gifts on his birthdays, phones him when she knows he's not with me, gets him
to do the lawn, fix the computer, come round and put the kids to bed when she's
ill.... .read
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Heather's Story
I was introduced to my now husband through
a friend at work but when she told that he had been married and had four
children I took some convincing for me to go on a first blind date. When I
first met him I was hooked. This was just over two years ago and there
have been plenty of traumas on the way.
I moved in with him
while still keeping my flat but leaving it empty. I tried to sell it but
no property was moving at the time. He sold that house and we brought the
next between us taking with us his then 20 year old problem daughter - bad move.
Within a couple of months I could see I was up against it and things went from
bad to worse. We had a rather bad row and she punched me in the face
causing my nose to bleed..... .read
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Abigail's Story
I met my husband almost 5 years ago when I
was 24, he was 32 and had been divorced for 2 months, his wife having left him 6
months earlier looking for someone 'more like Robbie Williams'!
When I met him, he had
his two children 4 days a week, his ex had them 3 days a week. However,
she did her very best to spend as little time or energy on them as possible,
keeping them in nursery for the maximum amount of time, at her parents when not
in nursery. She did not bathe them, dress them appropriately, feed them, all
things that were left to my husband to do. She was perfectly happy for my
husband to do all these things, and generally had no interest in the children at
all.. ......read
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